So Derek's best friend is getting married in August and I met him and his fiance for the first time last October at another friends wedding (they just moved back to the cities). Since then they came over once to watch a football game. At this get together The Bride tells me they want Derek and ME to be in their wedding!?! Of course I am honored, but seriously shes only met me twice! I didn't really say much in response at the time because part of me figured she would change her mind over the next few weeks/months and nothing would come of it.
At this same get together I showed The Bride what my Bridesmaids dresses looked like: style, colors, etc... She also told me what she was planning on her BMs wearing (similar style but completely different colors). Anyways, she calls me last Saturday and asks if I can make it to the first dress fitting Wednesday night. I really didn't feel up for it and since my stomach is still swollen and sore from the incisions I told her I could try and make it but it might work better for me to hold off for a month.
Anyways Wednesday rolls around and my phone starts to blow up, I look down it's The Bride. I ignore it in hopes she leaves a message indicating that I shouldn't worry about the dress fitting, just concentrate on getting better. No voicemail! A few hours later I still don't have my mind made up and my phone starts to blow up....The Bride...AGAIN! I was legitimately on the other line this time and missed the call...still no voicemail. About 15 minutes pass and my phone starts to blow, I finally pick up! She called to let me know that if I didn't make it tonight I would be the ONLY one not there because EVERYONE else re-arranged their schedules!!! Arghhh, it's times like this I wish I could say "NO". I politely act excited and say "of course I'll make it"!
So I manage to get out of work a few minutes early to try and beat rush hour traffic as I head across town. I remember the one thing going through my head while sitting in traffic...What if I don't recognize her?!? I played out a bunch of scenarios in my head and finally pulled into the parking lot a bit early hoping I would be there before them so she could find me.
I should have known at this point that things haven't been going my way for about a month and I shouldn't expect them too anytime soon! Luckily there weren't any other groups there so I found her right away. The 4 other BMs were already in dresses, very familiar dresses. I took a closer look, YEP, the SAME dresses I had picked out for my BMs AND to top it off The Bride informed me that she CHANGED the colors. Guess what...SAME COLORS AS ME!!!!! ARGHHHH!!!!! Who does that?
I get my skirt and top from the rack and get into a dressing room. I am down to my bra and panties when my door swings open. The Bride wanted to help me get into it. I was facing the door, my black and blue abdominal section exposed to the entire store. The Bride looks down and very loudly questions "Oh MY GAWD!!! What did they do to you?" At this, the entire store turns to see me in my grandma panties! Thank you VERY much! I was mortified but at the same time I was in enough pain that I really didn't care what anyone thought.
So I finally get the top she picked out for me on and she takes a look, "That is too cute, I don't want you to wear that one!" So she picked something else out. I don't really care what I wear! The Bride makes her final choices for everyone and then tells us we MUST buy everything TODAY!!! I wasn't prepared for that since she called and scheduled the fitting less then 5 days ago. I told her I would need to check with Derek first and to this she asked me "don't you have a credit card you can put it on?". I was so irritated, yes I have one and yes I knew exactly how much cash I had in my checking account but that wasn't the point! I once again let my kindness take over and payed cash for the stupid dress. I called each and everyone of my BMs on the way home asking if I was over exaggerating? Maybe a little but under all the circumstances, no!
I know I am leaving out some of the events but I think you get a good idea of my night!
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Oh how RUDE!!!!!! First to demand you be there after all you've been through this month, then to choose your dresses and YOUR colors! And them to demand you pay for them there. ARGH!!! No, you are not over re-acting or anything like that.
I was in a wedding when DS was about 4.5 months old and the dress fitting was TEN DAYS after I had delivered him. TEN DAYS!! I had to be there of course. I think sometimes brides (not you, but definitely this one) have blinders on and they think that everyone thinks about their wedding 24/7 just like they do. They know it's the biggest day of their lives yet and they are so excited, but what they don't know is that everyone else in it can't wait for it to be OVER!
Will the same people be at your wedding that is at hers? If not, don't sweat the colors or the dresses. It just means YOU have incredibly good taste and SHE can't make her own choices so she stole yours. Just remember that!
Oh my gosh, that is totally a difficult situation. I seem to always get into those situations where I'm suckered into saying yes.
I know what she did totally sucks and was not nice at all. Just remember that you're wedding will be beautiful no matter what you do.
I don't even know what else to say, that girl sounds ridiculous! Anyhow, I hope your recovery is going well!
OH NO. It sounds like she's going to be a bride-zilla. Ugh.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with all that while you're still healing.
So sorry that you had such an awful experience.......geez, she sounds like a Bridezilla! When I got married I only had 2 BM and 2 Groomsmen - my husband and I paid for everything.....dresses, shoes, tuxs, jewelry - we paid for it all just because we wanted to and we could since we only had 2 attendants. I think some people are just really clueless and incredibly bratty - knowing you and how you are - there is no way that you are over-reacting. You are one of the nicest, most patient people that I know and if you were getting peeved then she had to have been over the top! And...why did she think that you needed assistance getting dressed???
Just my 2 cents, but if I were you (and if it wouldn't ruin Derek's friendship w/ the groom) then I think I'd be getting a refund on the dress & back out NOW!!! If she is that bad now, imagine how awful she's going to be right before the wedding!! You have enough on your plate & if she's anything like she sounds, you'll probably be expected to put out quite a bit of cash to pay for her bridal shower, bachlorette party, etc. Find a way to wiggle out w/o hurting her feelings or burning bridges- use whatever excuse it takes... but it is just NOT worth it. You have your own wedding & health to be worrying about, you don't need that kind of stress FROM A STRANGER! (Also... don't give her anymore of YOUR wedding ideas... maybe keep a few fake (hideous) ones on hand to throw her off just in case she wants to copy the rest of your wedding! LOL!
(Also, glad to hear that you're recovering fairly well... I've been MIA for a while now, so I haven't commented much lately.. sorry!!)
OMG BOW OUT NOW!!! She sounds like a total biotch and major Bridezilla, not to mention inconsiderate, selfish and childish. HELLO! you are healing! She should have understood. If this is how she is now, be careful, she will making ridiculous demands with the shower and bachelorette party and day before the wedding and at the wedding.
I've heard about her type before. I wasn't so happy when my friend of 20+ years started to pull crap with me for her wedding last year and we were/are friends. You don't even know this chick. NO more miss nice, you have to think of you first and don't let her selfishness push you around. It's not like you're friends there isn't much of a loss there.
Oh, and I HIGHLY recommend that you keep any other ideas for your ewedding to yourself because she will try and steal them. Sorry but seriously, she didn't want you to wear something because you looked too cute. Can we say insecure?
Didn't mean to go off, but she pissed me off for you!
Yikes!! She sounds like a peach! If she is like this now I hate to see what she will be like at the big day gets closer! Try not to let her get under your skin.
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